We live in very strange times. While just five years ago I would have told you race relations in this country were probably better than they ever were in my lifetime — an orange cancer who refers to himself as a stable genius and unfortunately our president went and changed all of that in late 2016.
While I’d like to apologize to our country’s citizens as a whole for our president’s behavior, especially to those who have been belittled, mocked, groped or fired by him — I’d also like it understood that your average white American male doesn’t support Donald Trump. I’m apologizing for him but shouldn’t have to because many of us are just as outraged by the man’s antics. We have daughters and friends of other races and religions. In fact, some of us have married outside our religion or race and Trump’s ignorance affects our households on a deeply personal level.
My mother’s husband was laid off by Trump Plaza after 30 years of service, mainly because Donald wanted to go and play president for a few years. He now works a low paying security job. So to come online and feel like I’m being grouped in with Trump, based off my gender and race is beyond bothersome. My mother would have disowned me had I voted for the man — and come to think of it my father might have too. And yes, he’s another white American male.
It’s become alarmingly acceptable to disparage the average white male in this country. Especially when the disparaging is being dished out by those who claim to be all about peace, justice and equality. I’ve got no problem with those who fight fire with fire — but fire is being thrown at those of us who have done nothing but woke up white, with a penis between our legs.
Though I don’t consider myself apart of the right either, the left is out casting and polarizing potential allies in it’s alleged fight for equality and justice via blog posts, articles, interviews, podcasts and every other form of media possible. There are people writing outlandish posts, filled with the same toxicity they claim to be fighting against. I dislike Trump so much, I once thought I may be a lefty — until I saw how even the white males on the left didn’t seem to like white males very much.
I frequent Medium as a platform, both as a reader and writer. Today I read an article where the writer said both of the following in her piece. She first stated it “was impossible to be racist against white people” — before using the phrase “these white mayo looking bitches” in the comments. I wish I was kidding.
Listen, I get it. Throughout history, white males have done some pretty horrific and terrible things. But how is it not understood that to hold every white male accountable for those things, is the same prejudiced the left pretends to be against? It’s not different than the white guy who grows up racist because he was once robbed by a black kid when he was twelve. While I very much blame our current president for the divide we seem to be facing as a nation, to make every white male guilty by association only sets us back further. It only helps Trump in his mission, which is very much to divide.
What we need to do, is hold individuals responsible for their actions — rather than their race, gender or even political affiliation. As human beings, we should be able to have friends with different political views than us and hold civil and intelligent conversations with them about it. In fact, it’s a staple this country was built off of.