Hi Lara, just read your story and I’m sorry to hear about all you’ve gone through. Just remember, you’re not her and you’re not your past either. I can say I hold not an ounce of ill will but it’s also easier for me, being I grew up in the other parent’s household. From a young age, I got used to only one of them being around. Doesn’t mean I didn’t have anger issues growing up though because I did and my bet is 9 out of 10 therapists would tell me that’s where it stems from.

I simply love her from a distance and don’t allow her behavior or nonsense to manipulate my actions or feelings. I see things for what they are and thankfully my Mother has always tried her best to love me, never a mean word or any kind of abuse — which makes my story different from so many others and for that I’m grateful.

Thanks for reading and for sharing your story, Keep writing down how you feel.