The Internet is Littered With Terrible Relationship and Love Advice
And as a 33-year-old single man, I have no absolute answers for you either
Full disclaimer: I’m as single as they come. As single as single gets and I have been, happily, for a while now. So taking love advice from me probably doesn’t end in a dreamy destination wedding and picket white fence.
But at least I’m honest enough to just come out and say so.
Last time I checked, nobody is anywhere close to having love figured out well enough to be giving how-to-tutorials on relationships. It wouldn’t shock me to find out a few of these so-called and self-proclaimed love gurus were in the middle of nasty divorces. It’s more probable than them being in a perfect relationship, divorce statistics and common sense tell us this much.
Reading Words Do You No Good If You Don’t Take Action
For starters, nothing anyone has written or can write will lead to you finding the perfect relationship. Mainly because there’s no such thing as the perfect relationship.
Also though, because how could it? Sure a good, open, and honest article or post on relationships or love can help. It can help you improve yourself, your approach, and standards — but it can’t make initially approaching someone you’ve never met and asking them out or for their number any less awkward or intimidating.
No article you’ll read online or elsewhere will provide you with the courage and willingness it takes to put yourself out there to a stranger, or anyone else — and potentially be rejected.
That goes for this one and everything else I’ve written as well — despite the fact my posts on relationships and love have ironically performed and earned far better than almost everything else I have written about online.
Only you can get over your insecurities, overcome your irrational but natural fear of approaching a potential love interest and asking them out.
It is action and only action that will lead to a relationship — if you’re into that sorta thing. While reading the right words beforehand, or saying the perfect ones at the perfect time can help — execution is still what matters most.
The Problem With Most Relationship Advice Online
To put it plainly, most of it is non-sensical bullshit. It is designed to sell you a dream.
It plays on both your desires and fears, is riddled with keywords, with a misleading title plastered at the top. Almost proudly.
The kind that could serve as the poster boy for click-bait and one the article itself rarely delivers on.
Most of it is written to help the author and publication or website, not the reader.
It is created thoughtlessly by people who are probably super talented writers, but their work gets watered down by corporate editors, politically correct publishers, and digital publications who have advertisers tho think about.
Entities and individuals who are only concerned with their bottom line and not offending anyone — as opposed to providing actual value and genuine stories to their readers.
Nobody Knows Nothin’
The truth is, these so-called professors of love and relationship “experts” are as clueless as the rest of us on the subject.
While we can gain plenty of helpful insights and perspectives from a good article or post about relationships, one where the writer is being authentic and open rather than condescending, at the end of the day we have to throw ourselves into the fray and take a chance if we ever hope to land in even a half-decent relationship — and maybe even learn a thing or two while we’re at it if we’re lucky.
So don’t read about it, go live it. Because that article titled “21 Things All Women Want” that was written by a man isn’t going to get you anywhere anyway.