You Bring You With You Everywhere and Anywhere You Go
Being it’s not optional, you might as well try to be the best person you can, or at least be working towards such for your own sake — I mean honestly, who wants to bring an asshole everywhere, for the rest of their lives?
Generally speaking, I like my own company. I’m okay alone. I enjoy time to myself. In fact, it could be said I not only often prefer it, but at times I downright require it. After too much peopling or long periods of being overly social or exposed to large amounts of human behavior and interaction in short spans of time, I need time to myself. By myself. To recharge. Regroup, and recenter.
In those moments, I enjoy my own company, even on the days, I don’t like myself. Because to be quite honest, just because I don’t particularly like myself that day doesn’t mean I’ll like you. Not you personally, but you get my point. People are, well, you’ve met them. You’ve met us and we’ve met you. At both our worst and best as well as everything in between.
Actually, it’s probably harder for me to genuinely like anyone on the days I don’t like myself. How can I like or love you if I don’t even like or love myself?
And a more difficult question is, what is the love of someone who can’t find it in them to at least try to learn to love themselves, worth exactly? I mean, not that it’s worthless, but can we trust it? Is it genuine?
Do they know what love is and are they capable of it? The selfless kind. The brand that matters most, the healthy, nontoxic, non-co-dependent, genuine, unconditional kind we all want deep down. The kind this world would be better for if there was more of it to go around.
I’m not saying it’s been easy or that I’ve always been easy to love, only that it’s a struggle that’s been worth it and always will be, for each and every one of us. We have to do it consciously, to ensure we don’t subconsciously despise ourselves and self-sabotage ourselves at every opportunity we get to, without even realizing it. It’s a lot more common than you’d likely think, unfortunately. Too many people try to love someone else to fill the void of love they…